Affair Proofing your Marriage - Part 2

Here is the continuation of the "ups" I began sharing last week - that will help you guard your eyes and heart against ADULTERY and will revolutionize your marriage! And for those still saying – “I’M Not married" – learn them now and you will be better for it!

3- Wake Up - When a problem arises stop pretending as though it isn’t there! And that goes for you as a couple and as individuals. You will never heal from and issue as a couple that you are unwilling to admit is an issue!! Even if one person is 95% at fault the other person still has to own their 5%. I read a blog from Perry Noble once that said - "All too often couples walk into a counseling situation convinced if the other person would just change into the person that they want them to be the marriage would be amazing. That attitude basically tells the other person, 'If you will simply make me your god and worship me then all will be wonderful!'" Remember It is not YOUR ROLE to point out their imperfections. Matthew 7:3-5 makes that point very plain (Yeah go read it)

**A side-note while I’m Here FESS UP- If you are struggling with the idea of an affair TELL SOMEONE!!!!!!!

4- Make Up – STOP HOLDING GRUDGES THAT YOU “SAY” YOU ARE OVER! I have seen this way more times than I care to have seen it - where a disagreement ensues and one the other or both parties in a marriage begin bringing up old issues and old wounds that they never really addressed. Read – Ephesians 4:26. The rule of thumb there is - never leave an issue unresolved because it will come back eventually and it will come back with a VENGEANCE!

5- Build Up – It sounds so simple but it is so true - take time to encourage and build up your spouse. Stop becoming so consumed with discussing all of the things going wrong that you fail to celebrate the things that go right! Women be your husbands' biggest cheerleader. Men be your wives' most trusted confidant and speak words of life to her!

Again - to hear the whole message check it out here and listen to Laws for life #5.

~PN